Online dating do’s and don’ts

>> common way to meet somebody.

>> whether it's your first time or you would like to give it another go, editor and chief of the frisky.com and relationship counselor are here with tips to help you succeed in finding your guy.

>> hi, kids.

>> guy or your gal?

>> find both.

>> good. i think a lot of people don't know what the best websites are. sometimes you want to do it but you think should i. what do you guys like?

>> there's kind of the big three. eharmony which has more of a serious bent to it.

>> did that start the whole thing?

>> that's a matching system. eharmony is a matching system.

>> then match.com. which is really popular. then okaycupid which is gaining more popular in urban areas like new york, l.a.

>> are they pretty much the same?

>> i like a site called howaboutwe.com. i'm not putting a profile up. howaboutwe you get to propose a first date. how about we go on the staten island ferry .

>> most guys are visual and a lot of women too. the most important thing you'll do if you make a profile is find the right kind of picture to post. people don't cho what they should be posting.

>> women are crueller than guys.

>> show us a wrong. this is a picture we shouldn't offense. this is you.

>> these are a couple of photos of me that i put up. the idea being that these are super joking photos that don't display how truly lovely i am.

>> that's you on the left too?

>> your photo needs to represent the right way you look.

>> so people aren't going -- let's see a good one.

>> sosa a, i did sarah's profile . i picked out these three photos. she looks beautiful and natural and she's having fun .

>> as a guy there's something going on in the photos, like you can have a conversation about. like she's parachuting. she's approachable.

>> you know she's outdoorsy kind of gal.

>> i was going to do online dating at one point. they said you should put a full length picture instead of just a head and shoulders picture.

>> having a body picture up there is important. you know, i think being sexy is okay. guys also like it when women are a little bit flirty with the camera. there was one study showed guys don't like it when women are looking away from the camera in their profile because it seems like they are involved with somebody else.

>> they want eye contact.

>> next thing what to put in your profile . everybody lies. what dimpbs does it make.

>> can we assume that?

>> there's an assumption men are probably lying a little bit by a couple of inches on their height.

>> and weight?

>> yeah. this is the wrong self-summary. this is a very generic self-summary profile . i'm fun, outgoing, love to laugh. doesn't say anything about, you know, the person.

>> also, i think a big mistake is when you talk about dating in your dating profile . you come off as cynical if you say i hate online dating or i'm nervous. don't talk about online dating in are you on line dating profile .

>> other than saying fun loving and whatever you should be specific.

>> be specific. this sounds like this could be anybody. sarah's profile talks about what she does for a living, what she likes to do for fun, her interests, her outlook on the world. this gives you a real sense of who she is.

>> i think the most important thing in a profile is being approachable. i think guys often feel like women in their profiles are too picky, too choosey that will never qualify. create a profile that at least allows us to have a conversation that's optimistic, upbeat and approachable.

>> in reality be honest because eventually if you do meet somebody you're found out you're a liar. i want will catch up to you. you can google somebody anyway.

>> most people do before a date.

>> when you meet them you're not the guy i thought i saw online. it worked out four not to have to go online.